To hug, or not to hug? I’m still not entirely used to the French double cheek kiss greeting
Connection versus competition
From an article on mansplaining by Erynn Brook:
In competition (male) style communication the person who talks the longest and the loudest “wins”. Topics shift more frequently as speakers try to move conversation to their area of expertise/comfort, so that they can talk more, and thus “win”.
In connection (female) style communication the speaker “wins” by deepening connections with others. People tend to stay on topic longer in order to explore those connections and will pass the mic around/ask questions.
If you’ve ever done any teaching/speaking/group leading/camp counsellor-ing, you’ve probably used both styles, competition when you need to get everyone’s attention and connection when you’re leading.
Get to know Montreal’s steamés hot dog culture. Not as well-known as poutine, but iconic in its own right.
Chocolate pain. Apparently there’s a difference between a chocolatine and pain au chocolat. I just see tasty sloth pastries.
Ansari, Murphy and Chang in Tokyo
The Hangover Pt III chronicles Brett Martin’s journey through Tokyo with with Aziz Ansari, David Chang and James Murphy (from LCD Soundsystem). Crack a beer and take some time to follow the escapades of a true wolfpack.
We are not accustomed, here at GQ, to acting as a celebrity Make-A-Wish Foundation. But something about this tweet captured our attention. The grouping was unlikely, yet it made an instant kind of cosmic sense, as though you had been waiting for the picture long before it appeared. The Venn diagram of their fame might have a small overlap—I found that most people knew two of the three—but that intersection was a particular pocket of smart, inventive, forward-looking cool. The destination, too, made a certain intuitive sense, Tokyo being both a fun-house mirror of pop-culture iconography and a place where generations of Western seekers have gone to feel both reverently awed and gloriously disoriented.
Radical pessimist’s guide to the next 10 years
Douglas Coupland wrote a piece for the Globe and Mail last year titled A radical pessimist’s guide to the next 10 years. In true Coupland fashion, the list is funny and engaging, but hits the mark when you realize that he’s probably right about a lot of it.
Making oatmeal wrong
McDonald’s has somehow managed to screw-up oatmeal.
Others will argue that the McDonaldâ€™s version is more â€œconvenient.â€ This is nonsense; in the time it takes to go into a McDonaldâ€™s, stand in line, order, wait, pay and leave, you could make oatmeal for four while taking your vitamins, brushing your teeth and half-unloading the dishwasher. […] Incredibly, the McDonaldâ€™s product contains more sugar than a Snickers bar and only 10 fewer calories than a McDonaldâ€™s cheeseburger or Egg McMuffin.
Take a fast and healthy staple, pump it full of sugar and chemicals, serve. Sounds like the rest of the breakfast cereal industry, or just pre-processed food in general.
Colm O’Regan examines the constant stream of things that demand our attention. I’m not sure if he made up divided attention disorder, but I was amused by the analogy to tabbed browsing.
It’s the equivalent of sitting on the floor of a library desperately trying to remember what I was looking for with 20 books open around me, unable to concentrate because people keep giving me a thumbs up to tell me they “Like This”.
Update: It appears that Esquire had an article about DAD in a recent issue, but the full-text isn’t online.
What was the hipster?
Mark Grief examines the the birth, evolution and future of the hipster.
It would be too limited, however, to understand the contemporary hipster as simply someone concerned with a priori knowledge as a means of social dominance. In larger manifestations, in private as well as on the street, contemporary hipsterism has been defined by an obsessive interest in the conflict between knowingness and naÃ¯vetÃ©, guilty self-awareness and absolved self-absorption.
The article is interesting and worth the read, but it’s the comments that make it gold — they’re like reading overwrought YouTube comments written by, well, hipsters.
The lie guy
Clancy Martin is chair of the philosophy department at the University of Missouri and is known as the lie guy. He left his studies to pursue a career in luxury jewelry.
As I would tell my salespeople: If you want to be an expert deceiver, master the art of self-deception. People will believe you when they see that you yourself are deeply convinced. It sounds difficult to do, but in fact it’s easyâ€”we are already experts at lying to ourselves. We believe just what we want to believe.
Eventually, the business and lifestyle got to him and he returned to academia to study lying.
I went to work on deception not because I wanted to learn how to lie betterâ€”I had mastered the art, as far as I was concernedâ€”but because I wanted to cure myself of being a liar. What had started out as a morally pernicious technique had become a character-defining vice. I had to save myself. I needed to understand the knots I had tied myself into before I could begin to untangle them.